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When did I become such a snob?

Really, I ask you: When did I become such a snob? Greg and I have had a running joke for a few years now that we are food snobs, wine snobs, beer snobs, tequila snobs and now it appears art snobs. I am sure I can find more snobbiness if I try, but I will leave it at that for now.

It’s no secret among friends about our food and drink snobbiness. Last month I was visiting a friend. Before I got there she went shopping for beer for pizza night. She did not know what kind of beer to get, so she went to the store with the most options and stared at the beer. A few moments later a man in his thirties comes along and joins her staring at the choices. My friend turns to him and explains she has a beer snob coming to visit, does he have any recommendations. He appears to think for a moment, then reaches down grabs a six pack of Bud and says “Nope.” and walks off. LOL. She did okay though. I don’t remember what she got, but it was good enough to drink.

As far as wine goes, maybe it is because we grew up close to the Napa Valley. I don’t know, but I just can’t do a cheap bottle of wine. I know people who drink that wine in a box stuff, and say they LIKE it. Really? You are kidding me right? What about Boones wine? I remember drinking that at high school parties. (Sorry mom and dad). It wasn’t good then either. Now, I know you are thinking, those are terrible wines. Yes they are. You are right. Still anything less that about a $10 bottle of wine and I am not interested. See told you, I am a snob. It’s not about the price, don’t get me wrong, it’s just I haven’t found one under $10 I’d happily drink.

Tequila? Well, lets just say Jose is not in my vocabulary and if we invite you over for margaritas, there is no blender involved and likely the name on the bottle is one you cannot pronounce. 100% agave baby or nothing.

Then there is food. I am such a major food snob. I like fresh fresh fresh food. I cannot eat fast food, bleck. Don’t even ask me to stop at any of those places. Subway is about as fast food as I get, even then that is a last resort. I like delis, with all the fresh trimmings and fancy cheeses. I don’t even eat deli meat much, maybe a bit of turkey. I will only eat seafood if it is fresh. Usually that means I need to be near the coast to eat it. I use to really like Red Lobster, but since traveling around the US and having opportunities to eat really fresh seafood, Red Lobster is now only an “if I have to” kind of place. Good thing we live near the Gulf Coast. I love fresh seafood.

We recently just learned what art snobs we really are. As many of you know we recently moved into a house here in Louisiana. We literally had no furniture and nothing to decorated it with, after living in the rv for so long. So we are slowing buying furniture and we really need something for these walls. 12 foot ceilings, with nothing on the walls looks pretty barren. So we have been art shopping. I would love to have some original art of the walls. So we went looking, in New Orleans of course. To be honest, the prices are not terrible in some of the galleries down there, but still way out of our price range. We makes beads and marbles for a living, it’s not like we are rolling in extra dough.

So our next thought was, we will just get some prints for the walls. So we started looking. Nicely framed prints run anywhere from $100 to $300. I just cannot bring myself to spend that kind of money on what is essentially just a poster, when I can get the real thing for $300 to $500. So we didn’t get anything and realized we are snobs. No prints or poster for this girl, she wants the real McCoy.

So what am I to do? Well, shop ebay of course. Have you ever really looked at the self representing artists on ebay? I hadn’t, until now. I can see the appeal for artists selling there. No gallery charges. Just straight to the public. The artist gets to find out right away what sells well, no waiting months for a piece to sell and then waiting for a commission check. But best of all, I found I might actually be able to afford some original paintings. We just bought one on ebay and I am stalking a few others. Here is the one we got. It looks fantastic in my living room.

To have kids or not to have kids

No, I am not thinking about having kids. Just wanted to clear that up right away. One of the forums I frequent for lampworkers, recently had a discussion on to have children or not. In particular a woman about my age was asking older women who never had kids what their life ended up to be and if they ever regretted their decision.

It turns out only those people who really wanted kids and ended up not being able to have them, regretted the outcome. Though it wasn’t really their decision to make. What I found interesting about the discussion were the implications made on both sides of the debate.

I have heard many parents say that after having kids they discover this whole new wonderful side of themselves they never knew existed.  That they grow into a much better person and tell all of us with out kids we are missing out on the worlds greatest miracle.

Then there is the other side.  Those of us without children, free to do what we please, go where we want, free of the financial burden of raising a family.   We tend to flaunt our freedom in the face of others, telling them how wonderful our lives are and feel resentful when people tell us we are somehow “missing out”.

The thing is this:  We all make choices.  Life is just life.  The best thing to do is live it to the fullest and not look back and wishing we did things different.  Live for today.

As women I firmly believe we should be supporting each other.  Isn’t it wonderful we have choices in this day and age?  I hope I never make someone feel bad about their choice to have a family.  Family is a wonderful gift.  I feel fortunate that I have a large extended one, with plenty of nieces and nephews to go around.  Just as I hope the women in my life will respect my choice to remain childless.  That doesn’t mean I don’t have love to give.  Quite the contrary.

I hope we someday evolve as a society, so that women with careers are not made to feel bad that they are depriving their family of something, and that women who are stay at home moms are not looked down on for not having the career.  What a double standard we set for ourselves.  The saddest part is that we women do this to each other.

Again it is all about choices.  The choice to not have a family, the choice to have one, and the choice to do it all with a career.  I have the utmost respect for the moms in my life.  I am not sure how they do it all.  I am certain, I wouldn’t handle it nearly as well.

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